The Power of Knowing Your Value

Knowing your value is one of the most powerful things you can ever master.
If I could bottle it up and inject it into people, I would. Just a small dose of that knowing could change how someone moves, negotiates, and shows up in the world.

Some of it comes from knowledge of understanding how systems work. Some of it is shaped at home, being told early on that you are just as capable, just as smart, just as worthy as anyone else. But I also understand that even when it’s there, life has a way of trying to wear it down. The world constantly tells you, you don’t matter as much, your voice isn’t as strong, your worth is conditional.

That’s why you have to protect the knowledge of your value like it’s sacred because it is.

How You Earn

Let’s start with income.
Too many people are desperate for the offer in front of them, and I don’t mean that disrespectfully. It’s survival. It’s relief. But that desperation makes you accept less than what you deserve. You don’t negotiate because you just want to get in the door.

As an attorney, when I say everything is negotiable, I mean everything.
Even if the salary is fixed, you can negotiate equity, vacation, flexibility, bonuses, relocation, or titles. The point isn’t greed, it’s positioning. You’re not asking for a favor; you’re setting a standard.

How You Spend

Knowing your value also changes how you spend.

When you stop seeing yourself as lacking, you stop overpaying just to “feel” abundant. You stop chasing the next shiny thing that proves you made it.

When you view yourself from a place of wealth even before the account reflects it you approach decisions differently. You understand that “dream house” isn’t a dream, it’s a choice. That car, that bag, that moment? They’re options, not validation.

During the pandemic, people paid tens of thousands over asking for homes because they were scared to miss out. But when you know your value, you realize missing out on stress, debt, and overpayment is also a win. Power comes from being able to walk away.

How You Love

Knowing your value changes your relationships too.
You stop chasing people who make you question yourself. You stop trying to explain why you deserve basic respect. You stop auditioning for roles you didn’t sign up for.
You start realizing that real connection doesn’t require convincing.
That peace is not negotiable.
That the right people don’t need to be sold on your worth, they recognize it, because they know their own.

How You Speak

When you know your value, your language shifts.
You stop apologizing for taking up space.
You stop overexplaining decisions that protect your peace.
You don’t beg for understanding from people who benefit from your confusion.
You learn that silence, when used intentionally, is one of the loudest forms of self-respect.

How You Do Business

For entrepreneurs, this is where value is tested the most.
If you don’t know your value, every client, every offer, every price point will shake you. You’ll think lowering your rates makes you accessible, but really, it makes you forgettable.

People who know their value don’t sell for cheap because they understand they are the value.
They price from confidence, not fear.
They pitch with posture, not panic.

How You Leave

And sometimes, knowing your value means walking away.
From a job. From a relationship. From a space that once served you but now shrinks you.
It’s not disloyalty, it’s discernment.
You can honor what something gave you and still know it’s time to go.

Loyalty should never cost you self-respect. Blind loyalty is how people stay underpaid, overlooked, and overextended. There’s nothing noble about being the only one staying faithful to a place that stopped choosing you.

The Thread That Connects It All

Knowing your value means always keeping the power to walk away, not out of arrogance, but out of alignment.
It’s what allows you to negotiate smarter, love cleaner, spend wiser, and speak clearer.
It’s not about thinking you’re better, it’s about knowing you’re enough. 

The day you start moving like you know your value, the world adjusts its price.